No matter what they want to be referred as, Grammy, Ga Ga, and Grandma, all still mean the same thing. Spoiler of children. My family is unique. Because it is mixed (in more ways than one) there are a lot of different views, opinions, and personalities to deal with. My daughter who has a different father than my son, you would assume has only two households. Wrong. She has three. When I first had A I lived with my parents. They were amazing and supportive and I can’t thank them enough. Of course her father lived with his parents as well (even though he was three years older) and that’s the way it went for the first almost two years.

Now let me explain something. A is the only grandchild on her father’s side. Her Grammy, as she refers to her, always wanted a little girl, but had two boys instead. So you can imagine how thrilled she was that her first grandchild was beautiful little girl. Because she was/is so happy to have A she tended/tends to spoil the crap out of her. I’m not saying that my mother is any better, she too spoiled/spoils my kids, but the difference is that I moved out of my parent’s house after two years, while A’s dad stayed at his parents house for six. That’s six years of being spoiled and “raised” by her Grammy and PaPa. So every time she went for her visitation with her dad, she really went to stay with her grandparents. It made raising her in the way I wanted pretty difficult. Continue reading →