Today I realized that this blog’s 1 year blogiversary is less than a week away (is that something you can register for? )! It’s funny. When I started writing I never knew where it would take me, and I honestly had no clue what I would write about every day either. Looking back over past posts I am grateful that I started writing even though I had no clue what I was doing, because now I have stories to look back at to remind me of where I was and to push me to go where I want to go.
Last night I had an interesting discussion with a friend that I’d met on YouTube. We talked about her getting her maternity pictures done soon (she is due around the same time as me!), and I mentioned that I would not be getting any done…I’ve actually had a lot of people ask me lately when I would be getting my pictures done and the truth is that I’m not going to. For this there are many reasons.
When I was 17 (I know, everyone’s getting sick of the teen pregnancy stuff) Continue reading →
No matter what they want to be referred as, Grammy, Ga Ga, and Grandma, all still mean the same thing. Spoiler of children. My family is unique. Because it is mixed (in more ways than one) there are a lot of different views, opinions, and personalities to deal with. My daughter who has a different father than my son, you would assume has only two households. Wrong. She has three. When I first had A I lived with my parents. They were amazing and supportive and I can’t thank them enough. Of course her father lived with his parents as well (even though he was three years older) and that’s the way it went for the first almost two years.
Now let me explain something. A is the only grandchild on her father’s side. Her Grammy, as she refers to her, always wanted a little girl, but had two boys instead. So you can imagine how thrilled she was that her first grandchild was beautiful little girl. Because she was/is so happy to have A she tended/tends to spoil the crap out of her. I’m not saying that my mother is any better, she too spoiled/spoils my kids, but the difference is that I moved out of my parent’s house after two years, while A’s dad stayed at his parents house for six. That’s six years of being spoiled and “raised” by her Grammy and PaPa. So every time she went for her visitation with her dad, she really went to stay with her grandparents. It made raising her in the way I wanted pretty difficult. Continue reading →
Sharing a kid is really hard. As some of you know I share my first child with her father. Though I have always had full custody, I have always felt it important for her to have and maintain a relationship with her father. He gets a VERY generous visitation schedule, and I am very flexible to his needs because, well he is of course so much more important than me and his life is so much busier and more difficult than mine. Sorry. I have my catty “single mom to dead beat dad” moments still. Even though we still don’t always get along, child support is random, and he’s always switching times, and canceling on his visits, I still want her to go when ever she can.
When being a young mother there are a lot of things that you aren’t ever ready for. Continue reading →
I had made the decision to not do anymore videos till next week…buuuuuttttt, there is nothing else to do when you are sick in bed. I am very happy and blessed to be in the situation that I am in, and I am trying to remember that every time I have to stop what I’m doing to prevent nausea from turning into full on throwing up. It’s still hard and frustrating. I wanted to share my early symptoms though, so that I remember what I went through to get to my family of 5, and to also show my kids when they think that I don’t do enough for them. I do want to say though, that not every woman is alike. So please don’t compare yourself and your symptoms to me, and think that if you are not feeling the same then there is something wrong. I know that even with this being my third, I still sometimes have a tendency to do that, and all that does is drive you crazy for no reason. No two people will have the same exact pregnancy experience, that’s why it’s so fun to share. Continue reading →